Question #1 got some of us going. We couldn't figure out why we needed to keep the secrets. It just seems stupid because they're just not that important usually. Someone commented: "I started keeping secrets at a very young age when I started keeping things from my parents. It is a habit I got into. So habit was one of the reasons I kept secrets."
What would it be like if we didn't keep all those secrets? Bob talks about a plaque over the fireplace at the Center. It's an affirmation by Lilburn S. Barksdale, which Bob uses in his class on "Building Sound Self-Esteem." It says:
"I have nothing to hide.
I have nothing to prove.
I have no self-image to maintain or defend.
I have no need to control or resist.
I have only to be and to grow
Just as a tree has only to be and to grow."
So the consensus was:
What do we REALLY have to prove and to whom?
Why do we feel the need to hide things from others?
Will others judge us? Will it REALLY hurt someone if we tell?
(This video was reviewed by Pam Chambers)
Feel free to come and share your own personal insights sometime; the Saturday Night Video and Discussions here in Austin, Texas are a lot of fun and fascinating. (They're free, too.) Here are the questions the group came up with, based on the personal growth themes in the movie: